Living with Illness, self-help, therapy
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A Realistic Way to Set Goals for Mental Health

It’s post new year’s, just about that time where most people drop their resolutions or goals. Many folks fail at keeping up with what they set out for themselves because it may be too big, too vague, too strict, or without a plan. Are you on that boat or have you simply not done any goal-setting? Maybe you’re still going strong (go you)!

I don’t set a resolution in January, but throughout the year, I set goals for myself with month-long deadlines. It really depends on where I wish to be with a certain something in a particular timeframe. Makes things clearer and more realistic. For example, if I want to take a course in the summer, I’ll make sure to look up how much it costs and save up the appropriate amount. Very simple example.

Sometimes, things don’t go as planned, but that’s all right. Still, if you think this way of structuring goals is a good idea, here are some examples geared toward managing your mental health that you can handle:

  • Start therapy on March 2, once a month. Cost: $100/month.
  • Write a daily log of my feelings for a year.
  • Save $80 for anxiety management workshop on July 1.

For me, big goals don’t have deadlines. That’s important for me because it reduces stress around meeting that goal at a certain time, and eliminates the possibility of disappointment if it isn’t met. It also gives me the proper time to transform and heal because life is not a race. But also, sometimes it’s just a life-long lifestyle change I want to make. Here are some examples (inspired by my own):

  • Go to Reiki 2x/month and work on myself in between. (Specific but no deadline)
  • Manage stress with exercise. (Lifestyle change)
  • Watch the sunrise every morning before work. (Lifestyle change)
So, I hope this gave you some clear ideas of how you can manage your mental health in an achievable way!

Don’t let the new year be a reason to start something you really want to do; begin anytime!



  1. Absolutely. I find that setting really small goals can be so uplifting, along with some bigger ones. So, in the UK at the moment, we have snow and I’ve never done a snow angel so I did one last night which was a really fun few minutes! Little things don’t have to cost any money either, so another thing I wanted to do was to pull a pint behind the bar so at a restaurant in December, I just asked if I could give it a go! Healthy balance is key as, just as you say, life isn’t a race xx

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  2. I really like your “life is not a race” perspective ❤ so many people need to know to have their own journeys with their own unique bumps and golden moments, great post👏🏾👏🏾

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  3. This was actually really useful…it’s so easy getting swept up in the ‘bigger picture’ and giving up when we haven’t achieved our life goals…small steps! 😊

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  4. Well done, thanks! Biking is a good exercise, if that’s an option? Walking and yoga are other things I’m doing daily. You may find exercise decreases stress enough you can skip therapy! I like James
    clear who says. Focus on process not outcome. Best wishes!

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    • Biking is great!! I think that could be a great goal for someone to do daily because it can be therapeutic and you are out in nature, just like walking.
      I do yoga as well. It’s my main source of exercise.


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